BY LOIS DESOCIO
“I could never wear those.” I heard this sentence twice recently while shopping. One time it was while I was picking out these big, bedazzled pink earrings. The other was when I was checking out three pairs of my favorite J Brand black skinny jeans. The women who said this to me, who appeared to be over 40, knew I was shopping for myself, because I was wearing big, bedazzled purple earrings, and black skinny jeans. I did have a moment about the jeans, and thought: maybe I shouldn’t wear these either – I’m over 50. There is that uptight, conventional wisdom that says older women shouldn’t wear tight anything. Or maybe if you do, you’re trying to look younger. Do this! Don’t do that!
But it was just a moment. Not only will I continue to wear them, I will be wearing them when I’m over 70 – just like Jane Fonda.
Black skinny jeans is pretty much all I wear these days. In fact I wear them every day. Unless I’m on the beach, in the shower, or in bed – I’m in my black skinny jeans.
To me, tight means a good fit. That small percentage of spandex helps them hug, and hold their shape. They’re comfortable. They’re fashionable. They’re me! They make me happy. And they let me work from the bottom up. Picking out the shirt, the earrings, is where I want to put my daily-dressing energies. (I love shoes, too, but they’re usually black – to match my jeans.)
Think flower stem, tree trunk, or maybe ice cream cone – all the good stuff is on top. My jeans make me a pedestal that sprouts color; essence. Add black heels, my legs look twice as long. (Those big earrings? They give my face sparkle and pop!)
You’ll find me in my black skinny jeans during the day.
And at night.
I have about a dozen pair, and they are all exactly the same. Which gives me my personal strength in numbers. That phrase used to mean: never wear the same thing twice in one week. Now it says: buy a dozen of exactly the same thing, and wear it every day.
These are great post!!! I just love the skinny jean story. Just got a pair last wk and I am also over 50 and wondered if u should be wearing them,,, thanks for sharing! PZ
Mindy Schwartz said:
One of my favorite things about being this age is having the freedom to create my own style without fear. You know who you are Lois, and what works for you. I just lost over fifty lbs, and though I still have a little more to go, I am having a wonderful time buying skinny jeans and slightly clingy new dresses. Now I can show off the “real” me, who just happens to be over fifty. It’s a great feeling to be able to shop for what I like to wear, not just what fits!
I am so for wearing Skinny jeans!
Rona Abramson Brandell said:
SBJ are my uniform…work, play, day, night!