
A Bell Tolls for Paris.
14 Saturday Nov 2015
Posted in Memoriam

A Bell Tolls for Paris.
12 Thursday Nov 2015
Posted in Concepts

Streaming choices…
For many years I have prided myself on the fact that I am unattuned to the television. While others have buzzed about their favorite shows and read me the riot act for bypassing Breaking Bad, Downton Abbey, and Transparent, I responded with “I simply do not have the time.” I have books to read and newspapers to digest and cannot possibly be beholden to the boober tuber.
And then we got a Smart T.V. and downloaded Amazon Instant Video and guess who is doing the cajoling now? I am addicted to my nightly ritual of pouring a glass of wine and curling up with dramatic T.V. The newspapers are piling up, unread.
It started with Prime Suspect, starring the brilliant Helen Mirren as a homicide detective and then came The Wire starring Dominic West as a brilliant homicide detective. I just finished the first season and am thrilled there are four more to inhale. Endless T.V. viewing starring brilliant homicide detectives.
On a sleepless night there is nothing like cozying up in bed with the iPad and my head set on as Steve and the Boo (a.k.a. the cat) snore peacefully away, as I binge on episode after episode until dawn breaks. Due to recommendations from my 60-year old peers next up is Scandal and Ray Donovan. Streaming is the antidote to the folderol of the Republican debates.
31 Saturday Oct 2015
Posted in Art
03 Saturday Oct 2015
Posted in Travel
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Fatima. A woman makes a pilgrimage.
Steve and I arrived in Portugal on Friday September 25 for a delayed honeymoon. Our first night we stayed in the Palacio Hotel do Bucaco, set in a fairy tale forest known as the Mata National Park. The hotel is a gingerbread confection, a little seedy at the edges, but so extreme and over the top, the peeling paint was insignificant. The ceilings were 20 feet high, a life-sized sculpture of a lute-player sat on the fireplace mantle, and the 18th century chairs were carved with the most detailed renderings of the Hindu god Ganesha. The gardens were bucolic and the trails easy to explore, where I found not Swan Lake, but a little carp filled pond inhabited by two graceful swans.
The next day we drove to Conimbriga for a stroll through Roman ruins — the best on the Iberian Peninsula. There were some great mosaics and the remnants of ancient baths, but it did take some imagination to visualize the city that thrived about 2000 years ago.
Having gotten our fill of the days of Augustus, we headed into Coimbra — renowned for its university and its bibliotheca. It contains over 300,000 ancient books. We also ate sardines because one does not come to Portugal without eating sardines. No mayo required.
We then drove up to Viana do Castelo for the purpose of going to a beach. The beach excursion was tanked due to illogical planning, and so we focused on the view and meandered through the port and the old town.
Time for Porto, but since port is way too sweet to drink as a cocktail, we did not do much port tasting. The old city is vibrant and hectic and loaded with things to see. Amidst the sardines and octopus, we saw the Church of Saint Francis, baroque, ornate, dazzling, the Se, the art galleries and the gardens and basically absorbed the feeling of the city. It’s fantastic to take in the old houses, adorned with faded ceramic tiles, even if some of them are a bit run down.
Then I turned 60!
We celebrated me all day!
The GPS was set for Casal de Loivois, a village of three lanes, set amidst a landscape of terraced vineyards high above the Rio Douro in the Alto Douro.
We left the Alto Douro on Saturday and stopped at the hilltop village of Monsanto (NO relation to the chemical company) to eat lunch and climb the ruins of the old castle.
We are now spending a few nights in the hilltop fortress village of Marvao with roots dating back to the Roman era and a fortified castle wall from about 1200 that’s still climbable. The town, which has the narrowest of cobbled streets, is hosting a festival very reminiscent of a New York City street fair — vendors of hand-made jewelry, roast pork sandwiches, and throngs of people. Albeit there’s also music and dance. It made driving in a bit nutty as we dodged the pedestrians that shared the street. And the rains are about to come. In fact they arrived with gusto. So here’s to spending a few days of vacation in a downpour. Bring on the vinho verde and a game of chess.

Cloudy morning in Marvao.
And one last vacation thought — here’s to all the sleeping cats in Portugal and New York City and those who care for them when their owners are in absentia! Obrigada!

Sleeping New York City kitty.

Sleeping cat in Portugal.
14 Monday Sep 2015
Posted in Concepts
Have you noticed that people have good knees and bad knees? Or are knees completely off the radar screen of interesting body parts?
FYI, a bad knee has a crepe-y fold over appearance with a bit of puckering around the edges. To my knowledge there is no cure for bad knees. Unlike arms with a droop, where one can tether themselves to a weight lifting machine and do tricep curls ad infinitem, bad knees are incurable. Unless, perhaps, a botox injection would help plump them up.
The knee issue entered my consciousness because I am surrounded by lovely young ducks that prance the streets of Manhattan in the most adorable of thigh-high dresses and skirts. That used to be me. And then at about 57, I took note of some changes in knee action, (as well as a few other things), and adjustment started. Not that I do not don shorts, it’s just on a restricted schedule: to the beach and bbqs in my backyard.
And to be clear, I am not mourning that minis are off my radar screen because I am no longer in that age bracket of “young”. No I am simply remarking on the cliche that nothing stays the same. Who thought at 30 or 40 or even 50 that mini skirts or sleeveless shirts might have a finite lifespan in the closet?
However, I ought to quit worrying over the physical appearance of my knees and give thanks to my cartilage! At the moment no knee replacement appears to be in the offing. On the other hand, maybe that would provide an opportunity for a little nip and tuck on the pucker?
12 Saturday Sep 2015
24 Monday Aug 2015
Posted in Confessional
We have a subscription to AARP Magazine. When I first signed up, (what was it, 5 years ago?), it was an uncomfortable fit. Now it’s a part of where I am at this stage of my life, plus it contains all sorts of invaluable information, from tips on negotiating social security to determining whether a lifetime annuity plan is a good financial option.
Viola Davis was on the cover of the August/September issue and the headlines begged to be read:
BEST. SEX. EVER! We show you how.
GET THAT RAISE
MYSTERIES OF THE BODY EXPLAINED
I jumped to MYSTERIES OF THE BODY EXPLAINED.
The scientific explanation behind the changes we get to anticipate while going through the aging process is fascinating and logical. The unstoppable physical metamorphosis is disappointing. Pragmatically, it’s going to make looking fabulous and ensuring you are smell-less challenging tasks.
Uncontrollable urine squirts
Unfixable bad breath
Green toenails as thick as a brick
Sulfur smelling feet
Jimmy Duante’s nose
More farts
At least we are all in it together.
10 Monday Aug 2015
Posted in Confessional
Saturday, August 1 and Sunday August 9, 2015 were primo ocean days at the Jersey Shore and maybe all along the eastern seaboard. Wave intensity, water clarity, and a crisp but not icy sea temperature united to make for endless frolicking in the ocean. The waves rolled, pounded and crashed to the shore. I dove in, again and again, always trying to avoid those annoying boogie boarders. But if I didn’t manage to dive in at exactly the right moment, I was tumbled and tossed and somersaulted to the shore. I loved it, despite the fact that I acquired a few black and blue marks from the aquatic twirl.
And therein lies the rub.
As I move farther and farther from the right side of 59, I know my days of being able to take on an ocean of that vitality and volatility are numbered. Probably not next year, or even the year after that, but at some point between 62 and 70, I will need to be wise and stand aside for a calmer sea.
Even now I know that on rough ocean days I am not the person I was when I was young, (and I mean young like 56). I am aware of a slight difference in my durability to go one on one with a mighty wave and it bums me out because it will be one more fun thing (like partying till 3 am and then going out for breakfast) that will bite the dust. Ok I may, under certain occasions be able to make it until 3 am, but I’m not going to a diner for eggs when the night is over.
With the ocean, I just have to recognize that one day I will be standing on the shore while others plunge in on those primo days. So for now every dive is cherished and placed in the memory basket to be hauled out when I’m 90 and tell stories about back in the day.
27 Monday Jul 2015
Posted in Confessional
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I went out with two friends for a schmooz and a cocktail after work last Thursday. We met at one of the latest of the super hip joints that is contributing to the transformation of what was once a district devoted to raw meat and butchers to one that is still devoted to raw meat- just the classier type of beautiful men and women all perfectly manicured and decked to charm and slay.
We were lucky because having scored corner seats at the bar, we were impervious to the continuous jostle of bodies seeking position. We had a round of drinks and I was in the mood for a glass of a dry white wine.
I looked up to beckon the bartender and saw that he was just finishing with a customer, and as he turned in my direction he started a conversation with his co-worker bartender. They chatted, and when he again looked at me I hand-signaled to please come here. He sauntered over, stared me in the eyes and said
Do Not Wave At Me!
I smiled at the brilliant absurdity. Here I was asking for a drink from a bartender and I was being reprimanded because I “asked” with my hands. So it was logical to inquire what was the proper protocol in a situation like this. The mighty Oz speaketh:
You should say “Excuse me”, and when I have a minute I will come and attend to you.
Here lies the lesson: the privilege of paying $14 for a mini-pour does not guarantee the privilege of actually being a guest of the bar. And to think the only rule I learned was never throw an olive at a bartender’s head.
As yet, it remains possible to find down-to-earth bars scattered throughout the city, but with Manhattan’s ever evolving spin into a glass dome for the super rich, I do not know how long that will hold true.
21 Tuesday Jul 2015
Posted in Concepts, Confessional
Last Friday night, my way-left-of-59 office buddy and I headed over to Salvation Taco on East 39th Street for an after work cocktail. We had been there once before when she had taken me out for a pre-wedding fete. That night it had been pouring rain so we skipped the rooftop bar. But last Friday evening was exquisite. Drinking a chilled and salted margarita at a facsimile of a Mexican patio high above the streets of Manhattan was enticing.
We arrived and saw a line of Raybanned millennials hanging about the entrance and a hostess taking names. We bypassed the crowd and walked through the glass doors to the elevator.
There was a sign posted “See Hostess for Rooftop Bar.”
We looked at each other and got in the elevator and emerged to see the cloudless blue 6:00 sky and started to head in. We were stopped by a bouncer.
“Let me see your stamp”.
“What stamp?”
“The stamp you get downstairs from the hostess to come up to the rooftop bar. You have to go back down and get stamped.”
We really did not have the time to trek back down to the ground floor, wait on line and then wait to go up. So I did the next best thing. I looked that bouncer straight in her unwrinkled eye and said sweetly,
Look, I’m old. Please let us in?
She saw there was some truth to that statement and kindly replied
Go on in.
That margarita tasted sooo piquantly delicious because being almost 60 had delivered an unexpected perk: entrance into an overpacked happy hour.